Last night was really rough. He left without saying 1 word to me and that feels horrible. I also haven’t heard from him today which I hate. I just can’t even process the anger he has towards me. I feel like it’s just his way of justifying what he’s doing. Or he’s angry because he’s sad and he doesn’t know how to direct it properly so he’s putting ALL his pain and hurt into anger directed at me.
I’m really struggling today. I was feeling super confident yesterday afternoon, I think when he texts me, even if it’s on a tangent about my clothes like yesterday, it makes me feel better. When I don’t hear from him it feels awful. I took off work today and took the baby to my moms, just to have a day to myself and to decompress.
He can’t really think I believe his denial of this OW. So how can he feel like he has a reason to be upset WITH ME? He knows what he’s doing is wrong. I’m just really stuck on this OW and I know people say not to get hung up on that.
I do have a question. This will be the 2nd OW. Is that something the WS does? They don’t even necessarily stick with the first A, they can move on to another? Him and the 1st OW had a relationship, I could tell by the things I found. He would end it with her over and over when he became unsure and tried to make it work with me, and then he’d fall out with me and text her, etc. Now it seems he’s moved to another woman. Another bartender, same M.O. and he’s just denying it. But he’s SO ANGRY WITH ME. As if I’ve done something wrong and I haven’t.
I know everyone has said to let him sit with his anger, but I feel like he probably leaves here and just goes off and enjoy some himself, out of site out of mind. It’s like I’m just the bad guy and I don’t know how. It is definitely a 180 to not try to make it right with him, but I’m going to lose it if we sit down next week to discuss divorce and he is still behaving this angry towards me.
Last edited by job; 09/13/1807:02 PM. Reason: added link to previous thread
