Im having trouble holding it together since last night. I wanted to just be able to hold and hug my wife and tell her that i love her. Not being able to do that is killing me and knowing my W has those feelings for OM is tearing me up.The last 12 hours have been rough. It s*cks knowing that everything we worked for is gone, and that oir short lived marriage isnt what i thought it was.
eq, I understand the struggle. I also struggled with things like this.
However, think of it like this: Did you ever have a girl/woman that was into you but you weren't into them? Could you imagine holding and hugging and telling this person you love them? The thought of that probably turns you off, doesn't it? The more that woman/girl pushed themselves on you the further you tried to distance yourself from them, right?
Now, your W is you and you are that woman/girl (not really, but in those places in the above.) Do you really want to invoke in her feelings of turn off? Of wanting distance?
When you realize those things will do more harm than good (right now) it should help a little. Think of the end goal, not the current state. By not trying to do that today it might mean you get to do that later on. So focus on what works! GAL, 180s, detachment!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
