Apart from having nothing more to add in my "more of the same life," I've been waiting for this thread to lock out before starting another--and adding more info.
There really is nothing to report other than the same old story.
1) I avoid W; 2) She evenetually pursues to find out how much longer I can continue living this way or launches an attack; 3) I tell her she can leave 4) She accuses me of thinking a nanny is better for our children than her mother. 5) I tell her that's not what I said 6) She says she'll go to C to see if it works, but then says it's impossible to reconcile and then quesitons my sanity if I really think a C could help...and on and on and on. 7) We disagree on the impacts of D or Sep on the kids versus our current sitch with her sleeping on the couch; 8) She says the best option is for me to leave because she can't stand the pressure of living in the same house with me; she buys me books on the Happy Divorce! 9) I say a another option is for her to live nearby with her parents and come to the house during the day. This is better financially and eliminates the need for a nanny. 10) She says this is not an option. 11) I say fine--I'll continue to take one day at a time.
For those who say I should separate and leave, please understand that a six-month arrangement (which is the minimum my W has "insisted" upon) that preserves my minimal legal rights in a D would cost between $25,000 to $35,000 in leghal and living expenses. Given that we'll be away from each other for four weeks in the summer and my spiritual journey in the Catholic Church continues to grow, I'll take my chances at home.
Btw, all three of my kids received near perfect report cards!
In a few weeks when W is away, I may pop back on again and visit some others. Until then, y'all be good.
