I have not contacted a lawyer nor do I intend to at this time. There is no legal separation in my state.
Originally Posted by imlost8
Don't be scared, GAL, and do things that you like to do. Really, truly focus on yourself. I also consider myself a people fixer, and let me tell you, when you truly let go and let the other person handle their issues, it is such a relief. I've come to the conclusion that there is NOTHING I can do to in influence or change a person. The change has to come form them. Good luck and we are here to support you
I think I'm coming to terms with my fear of change, and no longer feel all that scared, although I have moments! I have been working VERY hard on GAL, and have several things planned this week, and have a few trusted friends that are my rock. I'm on a wonderful "find myself" journey, and am starting to feel like no matter how this all turns out, I will be o.k. Maybe it's that relief you are talking about. It's exhausting trying to fix people that don't want our help.
