CMM is my boyfriend - not my ex, not sure the lighthouse analogy quite applies. I am his partner in getting through this cancer diagnosis, but our relationship is still quite early. I need him to handle his relationship with his daughters but I think his ostrich tendencies are at play here. And from a strictly selfish standpoint, I'd like to see him fix his relationship with them - otherwise, he could die on me and I'll be the one stuck with dealing with these girls I've never met. ("Hi, I'm your estranged father's girlfriend you don't know anything about, where do you want me to send the body?"). I know it's not in my power but I certainly CAN point him in the right direction.
