Ya, I think I do that sometimes because I just want him to see im not the enemy. I am NOT trying to make this a bad situation, so I feel like if I do something nice, make a nice gesture, he will see that and see we are not against one another. But, in this current situation, I need to stop trying to fix things I guess and stop trying to make it all alright.
I just never want to let things get TOO far gone, and I am afraid he will let things get out of control. So I always want to fix it.
Its the same with the D. I am afraid he will go through with it out of this anger he is feeling right now, even if hes unsure deep down.
