Reading "Going Dark" now and I am curious about something discussed there.

Compliment her as a friend, not as a lover. JamesJohn 6/10/02

So if you offer a compliment that she looks nice and my intent is nothing more than that yet she gets defensive I suppose there are two conclusions.

One is she isn't ready for compliments from me yet.

Two would be she is reading more into my words than are intended.

So proceed how?

Avoid complimenting her?

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