Husband Cheated, left, trying DB 2

[Ready2Change]

> Note, this isn't a movie date.

W - I need to talk to you can you please call me asap
M - Is S ok?
W - Yes.
M - Is it about S?
W - Well, kind of. There are a couple of things we need to discuss and it's too much to txt. Will you call me or no?

RED FLAG
I would have texted "I can't call right now. Just text me or we can discuss later."

As for mediation, I will look over my finances and schedule and let you know when I make a decision."

I am not prepared to agree to a mediation date at this time, so I will look over my schedule and finances when I get a chance and then get back to you about it."

So I will look over the information you have sent me when I have the opportunity and I will reach out to you when I have made a decision.

My plans are my business, and you do not need to make assumptions about them.

My plans do not require your approval, and my sched no longer revolves around you. As I have said, I'll consider the information you have sent me when I have time, and I will let you know when I have made a decision.

Furthermore, I asked if the call was about S. You lied to me because you knew I would call you if it was. The call had nothing to do with him. It is clear that you have no respect for me, and that you chose to lie to me in order to manipulate me. That is insanely disrespectful to both S and I. You have shown that you are willing to use him to get to me. You clearly have no respect for him if you are willing to use him like that.

Perfect responses This is how you are to respond to H.

More words to remember:

It is clear that you do not value my request for time to look at my schedule and see what works, nor do you value my feelings on the entire matter. I believe you are BEING EXTREMELY SELFISH.

when I state that I have a need for time to consider your request, you demand that I act on your terms, and when I politely express my need for time to gather information you.....

I said I would let you know what works for me, you became disrespectful and accused me of.....That's not "arranging". It's demanding and manipulating.

you refused to address the issue. Instead, you chose to ...

It appears you value your opinion more than either my feelings or S's safety.

M - I believe you are a caring mother, however your actions speak otherwise.

What I choose to believe is personal to me.

Unfortunately your actions indicate that you do not think about your actions beyond how they make you feel.

My feelings have no bearing on facts.


shows poor judgment.

You demonstrate that you don't respect his well-being, nor my feelings.

How I use my time is my business.

I have stated that I would review the info. Please respect my request for time to process it.


I don't plan to give her a response to when I want to mediate any time soon. Because I don't want a D. I'm not going to undo my plans just to make time for her