Merrick,

I would do the same if I were you. Your W has started the A. If people talk about her and the om, she has only herself to blame.

I am thinking to ask my W to choose, try to work on our M (mean let go the om) or she is free to move out. She wanted both. It is not going to work.

Our kids suffer because of that. It can not go like this forever.

Raindeer