You guys are right, but that was a few months ago when I was trying some new appraoches with W. To be honest, my M is secondary right now to maintaining the fullest R with my kids as possible--and tonight entailed another distancing event.
W begins by calling my office around 4:30 ten to fifteen times without leaving a message (I rarely answer her calls and kick them to VM). She finally leaves a message saying she need to talk about something very important. Since it didn't involve the kids and I was on my way to the Yankee game and decided I'd call her when I got there--which I did.
W immediately says that she thought we agreed back in January that we were not breaking up due to OM and no one should be told that. However, someone told her that I recently said we were splitting and she was with him. Now, as many of you know, I have no fondness for OM and numerous people in my town are aware of our sitch and the time W spends with OM and my disapproval of the sitch. BUT, I have never said made the link she alleged and told her that. I said I'm not responsible for what other people said.
She answered that this is not what she heard and insteaed of taking a deep breath and looking towards Christ, I just cut off the convo and said, I really don't give a rat's a$$ about you and OM (I meant the R) and I'm just not wasting my time talking about it and hung up. Actually, not a bad response in my view given where her mind is at. I really don't give a rat's a$$ and the ball is in her court. I'm just living my life.
She's out tonight, so there's a good chance she'll come home ornery, so I'm wondering if I should start a tape recorder upon her entry.
