On custody, I raised the joint custody issue with her along your arrangement and she categoorically rejected the idea. And, my chances for anything more than every other weekend are slim, so I'm really hesitant to do anything on this front that would undermine my already tenuous position. In addition, W had three calls on our phone to OM today and hustled out sharply dressed as soon as I got home--so I'm surely not leaving my kids while she has any hint of an R with OM.
Right now, I'm trying to find a cheaper female attorney to pursue my options, but for now, I'll just focus on the kids and be kind to her and try to act like Christ. I backed off the kindness routine earlier because she felt it was pressure, but you know, that's her problem--not mine. My goal for now is not the R, but staying with the kids--and I refuse to be the source of anger and meanness in our home; I will act the way I want my kids to act. Heck, even pro-D people say that children feel more secure when both parents are present and not fighting. If I could just get hold of Woody Allen's Orgasmatron or the ant-little blue pill, I'd be fine. I'll have to ask Sister RCIA about that!
or the ant-little blue pill, I'd be fine. I'll have to ask Sister RCIA about that! 
