Thank you all for the responses. Yes, my previous situation is a great example of how detachment and truly moving on does work. I used the DB principles to make that happen and it did work. Now that I have made an account I am going to offer advice where I can to other people in similar situations.
RR17, thank you especially for your encouragement, it really helped me to read your feedback. In these last few days, her attitude towards me has changed quite a bit. I think that me ignoring her when she starts to argue has worked, as she has been nice and respectful towards me. And I have been indifferent towards her for the most part, very short text responses, keeping communication to a minimum, etc.
Last night I did slip up but I don't "think" I ruined it. Yesterday I was sick and she called me to meet up to return the dog's medicine to me. I told her I was sick and that I couldn't leave the house and she offered to come drop them off (which surprised me since her new apartment is 30 minutes away and she always complained about driving down here). So she got here and offered to take me to get some food and medicine since I was sick (again, very surprising, her normal self would have dropped the dog's medicine and left not worrying about me). So we went (since I really did need the favor lol I wasn't in a position to drive), and she got some food for herself too. Came back to the house and ate together and talked a little about jobs (mostly me giving her advice on that), the kids, etc (nothing M or R related). Kept myself confident and positive the whole time (not an act, that's truly how I feel).
Here's the slip-up (you guys can beat me up for it, I deserve it lol). When she was leaving, I felt some type of vibe from her, can't really explain it. So instead of just saying goodbye like I probably should have, I went in for a hug (which, a week ago, would have backfired 100%). She hugged me as well and it felt like the first real hug in months. You're probably thinking, that's not a bad slip-up. Well that's not all, here it goes (and I feel dumb even typing this since I know I messed up). Since I still felt the vibe, I held her hand (she didn't pull away or act offended like normally) and she looked at me and I asked her if she'd like to go out with me sometime. She asked me if I had started going to therapy yet (I told her I was going to go to therapy to help with some issues from my childhood). I told her that I went to one session and have another this week. I told her that I needed time but that I can work through my issues and I want to try to work this out. She said that she understood and agreed. Then I said let's talk about it some other time and we hugged again and she left. Then later that night sent me a text saying that she hopes I get better soon, I just responded thank you for taking me to get food and she said your welcome with a smiley face.
So I plan to just continue how I was as it appears to be working, and not bring up any more R talk unless she does. What do you all think of my slip-up? Hope I didn't ruin everything. Anyway, you all have a great day and thank you for listening
