I’m listening. Not sure the outcome will be what we hope but it is what it is.
If you really want to DB well (and you are showing signs of doing that), then you will drop all expectations related to outcome. DBing is not outcome based, this is why so many get tripped up with it. It is activity based. GAL. 180ing. Detaching.
The outcome will be whatever the outcome is. The key to DBing is to have no expectations. Expectations make you step away from GAL, 180ing, and detaching. Expectations will make you do the wrong things. Expectations will cause you to do things when the right action is no action.
Just like your voluntary support. I guarantee you, if you get to the why you did it? It was an expectation. An expectation that if I agree to do this and do this for her, there will be a positive outcome for me down the line.
Sorry, I know I said I would stop commenting on your sitch Did, but I can't quit you!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
