Wife is not who I married...Pls Help Pt5

[RR17]

You do realize that you continue to use your S's feelings and your Dog's feelings (both things that only you can fully understand) to justify your actions and now you are telling us the thoughts behind my statement?
You justify Triangulation because your S feels a certain way.

Now I only hear your side of this story, and even so, it sounds abusive.

Do you really want half the wedding gifts and Christmas stuff if you are going to be D? The crap in the basement? Really?

LoneWLF, if what you've been doing is moving you toward D, isn't it time to try something different?

Unless D is what you want, in that case why not just facilitate it?

Before you justify your actions by repeating how the other legs of these triangles think and feel, ask your self this: What do I really want, and is what I'm doing moving me closer or further away from this goal.

BTW, no, the reason I suggested that you consider leaving is not to GAL. If it was, I would have said that.