IDK, still sound like you are interfering with their R.

That's not why I suggested that you might leave.

If you did decide to leave, I would let S know in advance. Disclose and that's it.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.