Hello Team...lol...a lot of great people here. Thanks for your input on the anti depressants. I'm going to hold off a bit or try a smaller dosage. Terrapin, they put me on Venalaxafine. I was so nauseous, I was dry heaving at work..lol.Glad it wore off finally. I really think social media is the cause of alot of AFs nowadays. I've heard so many stories of people reconnecting with old flames. Hell, I've had old girlfriends friend me. Its actually awkward, but for some it opens the door. I do need to stop checking FB ...in fact, I really should disable or delete it. So I've read through alot of threads. I know I'm not the only brokenhearted person. I'm not glad about it either. I feel bad for every single one of us. And I am grateful for every single one of you. I'd be way more lost if I hadn't stumbled on this place. I'd still be pursuing and begging and probably in jail if I hadn't found this place. Tonight was a great night for GAL. I took my two youngest to the Fair. Spent way too much money. My kids rode tons of rides . And I watched all the weird people for 5 hours. Where do these people come from?. I tried not to think about the previous 15 years I'd been going with W. Okay I thought about it too much, but I was okay. I dropped kids off at Ws place and came on home. My 2 oldest wont stay with her. She is very hurt by them not wanting to stay there. I wont get in the middle of it if she asks. I need to prepare myself mentally for next week. Her trip...ugh. I'm so disappointed in her-- smh. I will just continue on and stay strong. I know I will need some uplifting advise and motivation, so be ready..lol. No, I will be okay. At times it will pop into my head ,how blown away I am that I am going through this. How my W turned so wayward...so out of character. I know some of you feel the exact same. Its really like a twilight zone /nightmare. If they only knew how much pain they inflicted...they still would not care.
Lane, I'm no doctor or psychiatrist, but do work in the medical field. I've never heard of that med. I would recommend you ask your doctor about trying something else.
Yes, I'm always amazed at the freaks at fairs!
I'll be praying for you man. You'll get through this
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
So the W has not told the kids about the trip she is leaving for. The 2 oldest are aware of it but shes never mentioned it one time. I'm considering asking her if she was ever going to let them know? Or do I just let it go and not say anything at all to her. She got to know what she's doing is wrong by being secretive about it. She hasn't even mentioned where shes going to me. Such a disgrace....should I just let it go?
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
L, my W wouldnt even mention to my S that she was leaving in advance. She would tell him 30 minites before she was going out the door that she was leaving for out of town. She wouldnt even tell him when she was coming back, obviously not who she was going with, and mostly lies about where/what she was doing.
I would suggest you let it go. I mentioned to my W that she should tell our S where she is going and give him an idea when she is coming back. It ended in her getting defensive(as usual) and coming back at me about how im wromg for something or another. You have to do what you think is best in the end, but just weigh the positives and negatives of it before you act. Good luck L, ive still got you in my prayers.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
Yeah, I'm not going to say anything. Being silent is always best. Today has been rough for some reason. I cant get my mind off everything. Been trying to keep busy. But it's not working. My D15 isn't feeling good and s14 is playing Fortnite. So I'm just hanging out watching football. I hope my W trip is horrible. This is killing me.
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
L....truthfully nothing works early on. The only thing that remotely helped me was spending hours on this board every day reading through sitch, after sitch, after sitch......it was the only thing that provided me with with comfort knowing that I wasn’t alone. It [censored], I am sorry.....hang in there.
So my WW has been on a trip with her friend...OM. I've got to be honest. I'm hurting pretty bad the last couple of days. We have a rental house that we lived in when we first got married. I lived there before we met. We kept it and rented it out all these years. I put it up for sale back in June. It hasn't sold and I've been making 2 mortgage payments on it. W texted and asked if she could stay there and make payment. I actually told her I was okay with it. It might be good for us in the long run. So, I've been dwelling on this mess. Her staying in a hotel room with this guy. Its driving me crazy. It's like another nail in the coffin. I've been telling my self to be patient and stop thinking about it. I want so bad for that AF to crumble. I'm hoping in time the fog will lift...its not looking good right now. Its amazing a mom would go on a 5 day trip and leave her kids for that long...oh the mind of a WW. I know that I'm working on detach. I dont reach out to her ever. I'm faking my way through this. However I really wish I could get to the point of not caring so much. I've been so busy with kids and work, while shes on vacation...ugh!!
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
Lane, there's just no way to not be hurt when you know your wife is off with another man. I wish I could follow your situation more closely but I can't believe she'd take a trip and leave you with four kids. How can she enjoy her time without her kids?! How can someone be so selfish? These WW spouses don't just abandon us they also abandon our innocent kids. Your situation seems severe. It's good you're doing everything you can do and you're trying to control your thoughts but I also know the acute pain and devastation that you're feeling are normal feelings for these circumstances. Let's think positive and hope that on this trip your wife and OM will get into a big fight, break up, and your wife will suddenly wake up and realize what she's done.
Yes, its been a really rough summer. Now we're going into Fall. Definitely trying to keep positive. It's truly not like her to do any of this. If so, she hid it very well. My thoughts are she's trying to seal the deal with OM. But that's me trying to read minds and thinking the worst. Just need to take things day by day. I'm like everyone else, you hope it turns on them soon. But for LBSs its not soon enough. Its like how much more can a person take? I don't know. It's the neverending rollercoaster isn't it. I'm just going to enjoy my kids every minute I have them. She'll regret all of this someday.
ME 47 W 38 M17 T20 Separated 5/20/18 D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed 4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15
