I'm already on medication. I've been working with my doctor regularly to address this. All pills will do is help with the peaks and valleys, which it does, but it's not a cure-all. That being said, I am able to function through this hell.
Sorry I think you did mention that before but at my age I have trouble remembering the details in all the different sitches here! Quite right that it's not a "cure" for grief but it should help you get through the grief a little easier.
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I deflate at the thought of a year or longer part. I can be patient, but I cannot keep hoping while other opportunities for happiness pass me by.
Not many people have that kind of patience. I mean if someone told me "if you patiently DB for 3 years then your W will come back, that's 100% guaranteed" then I would have stuck it out. But without a guarantee who wants to put up with years of this crap? Most LBS's move on after a year or two. They get over the grief, they meet new people, they start dating, they realize there IS life after BD. And often, by the time the WAS does come back and express interest, the LBS is fully invested in their new life and doesn't want the WAS anymore. A lot of people come here asking "why aren't there more success stories", well that's a big reason why. But likewise, I've seen a few cases here where the LBS DID wait for years, and the WAS never did want to recon. So you have to decide for yourself how long of a wait is long enough.
