Pain- please stop focusing on her and start focusing on you. Try starting with a gratitude journal everyday. Write down things that you are thankful for. Even follow it up with things that make you happy- new experiences that you want to try- along with your daily or long term goals. Hopefully this takes your mind off her and puts you in a better mindset focusing on you. Good luck on your journey!
I have been doing that, LW. I've been great strides in GAL and getting my issues addressed. I have accomplished nine major goals so far this year. Stuff that I never thought I would achieve. And it's being noticed. I'm not asking for notice. It's just happening. I'm putting on a "I'm great!" face around W and her friends. Something that I have never done before. I stopped talking about R at the end of July. It was the day after I "let her go" I signed up for the forums here and asked for guidance on this journey. The last 44 days have been huge in terms of my growth. And the last three days I feel like I have stalled. I tried to GAL last weekend but it was harder than usual. The thoughts of W and OM invade me constantly. I keep hoping and keep detaching (terribly slow process). I don't know what the average time for detaching is, but I sure as f*ck know it's not 44 or 125 days.
And that's the hard part is that I know I have a long long way to go.
