So wouldnt detachment basically be falling out of love with him? At this point id love that. This is pure torture.
Hi Kech, sorry that you are here- I've been following your sitch but wanted to chime in. In regards to falling out of love- I think you need to continue to love him but at a distance. He needs to go his journey alone for now. And this goes the same for you - take the time to find out what makes your heart and soul dance again. In another thread I read you have to treat the WAS/WWS as if they were in a coma. You still love them and want the best for them but they need to survive and persevere this situation that they are currently in. Just focus on rebuilding you to the better version Kech 2.0. Good luck on your journey!
Thank you Lone Wolf. The coma idea is a good suggestion. I just WISH I knew he would come out of this and regret this and try to make an effort for our R. I know everyone wants that. But I just feel like each day I get further and further from it. I want to grab onto him and stop us from continuing to float away from one another, because thats how it feels.He seems so lost, but at the same time its like as long as he has OW he will never really hit rock bottom and have to feel the loss of me. Its so upsetting. I just know what a hard time i Have ahead now that he has OW and everyday is going to be hard
