Thank you Amoafwl for this, I know that is my responsibility. I know some of the D was raising a kid with special needs and then some is because I dont have a job or a hobby. I do think I my husband felt like I was a burden.
I feel like now that my S17 is gone I have a whole new world open to me, but I also feel like a dark cloud is hanging over me because of all that has transpired. Either way, I am going to focus on me.