I don't know if your a Christian or how strong your faith is in God. I just wanted to share with you that I was a WAW. I was so hurt and angry. I was not a nice person and very cold to my husband. He had followed what he read and used info from one of the seminars Michelle had a year ago or so. Believe me his positive attitude pissed me off and confused me. I was angry that he was changing things about himself when I decided I wanted out. I'm sure she notices that your trying. Don't give up. For me ,God showed me it would not be easy if I chose divorce. I began to turn back to God and He softened my heart so I could fall apart and break out of that shell I put around my heart. The hardest thing for me is when I realized there was a love deep inside for my husband despite the affairs I had. I knew deep inside if I left I just might regret it after all we started out as best friends. I'll pray for you that things turn around for the better. I don't know if what I wrote was of any help, I skimmed through some of what you posted and just seeing that your wife was so distant/cold reminded me of myself. Sorry for rambling.
