Matrix you are running in circles bud I hate to say it. Taken for a ride? She's been taking you for a ride for years my friend. If you keep pursuing she will continue to do what she's doing. I think if you truly disconnect you will see something entirely different from what you are expecting. I feel for you bud but I can't give you any better advice you know what you need to do.
Maybe ‘taken for a ride’ is the wrong phrase to use. I don’t mean to say that when I’m home I run around her with my tail between my legs, my tongue is out, and I let her make a doormat out of me. Not even close. But when I follow the 37 rules, particularly with respect to the following 3 rules:
Originally Posted by 37 Rules
4. Do not follow your spouse around the house like a puppy dog trying to get his/her time and attention.
13. Be cheerful, strong, outgoing and attractive at all times!
18. Do not be nasty, angry or even cold
I feel as though she gets the impression that I’m now Mr. nice guy, and I’m content with the status quo.
That’s what I mean when I say I feel like she’s ‘taking me for a ride’. She gets to eat her cake, while seeing me ‘content’ with the current situation. In other words, I don’t break her balls about who she talks to, and at the same time, I’m a very pleasant person that has finally ‘realized’ that it’s ok for the situation to continue as is, and have backed off of her. I feel like if don’t show discontent, she gets the idea I’m ok with her cake-eating – that’s what I mean by ‘being taken for a ride’.
M (LBS): 41, W (WAS) : 40 M: 16Y, T: 22Y Kids: 11, 9, 9 A: since 2015 DB: since July 2017
