Children are only young once. Even when they are young they sense that things are not quite right. They are the completely innocent bystanders in all of this. And regardless of how young they are they get traumatized.
Marmar has an already established routine with his child, is the advise to cut back on time with his baby or to establish the same time spent with his child but alone?
#1. If this goes to divorce his wife will be documenting the time they each spend with the baby. To establish custody and financials. #2. You say that you and your child have a strong bond. That is good for your child. Your child will need that to continue to get through all that. #3 make your child the priority. Not DB, not GAL. We have had so many older kids on these boards that were cutting themselves, or had suicide attempts. The younger kids develop behavior issues, hair pulling problems, difficulty with potty training.
You sound like a great dad. I think talk to a social worker or counselor that specializes in the needs of children during separation and divorce. They will have more experience in how to cope and will be able to guide you through this.
