Whether you understand boundaries or not, it sounds like you have instituted them. Good job.

She sounds angry from your description and needs time to chill.

I think you are doing well. Still helps to read and understand what is best policy. We all slip.

All that needy bata behavior is common and should be avoided. My MC told me to research vulnerability and although important in any R it often looks like Needy Bata stuff that drives them away. Makes us feel weak and look weak.

DBing is several things. Detachment is key. Sounds like you are on the right track. You have to love someone in a way that that person feels free. Chase and they will run.

You are in a helpful place.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.