Newcomer here - tightrope walking

[SteveLW]

I get the S thing. However, I need you to ask yourself to be honest about it. Are you using spending time with your S as an excuse to spend time with your W? You don't have to answer in a response, just think about that. Many times LBSs will put barriers up to DBing like this for reasons that are not pure. Maybe you are being pure, but I don't think a couple of nights a week where you are out GAL will hurt your bond with your S, especially if you are fully engaged with him the other 4-5 nights a week.