I’m still unsure of ignoring / setting thins during boundary when W is obviously reaching out more. DOnt I want there to continue? I really want her to pursue and want to be physical and intimate not just friendship and nice texts...
Read the pursuit and distance thread. She will continue to reach out the further you distance yourself. The minute you pressure and pursue is the minute she will run the other direction.
So how do you encourage her reaching out more? To not to be too eager to respond. Yes this works. This is why we tell people not to respond to informational texts. Respond to direct questions but give it some time. Do not respond immediately. Use as few words as possible when you do answer the question. Yes or no questions get a simple yes or no response.
Also, ignoring is not even reading the text. So don't ignore her texts. Read them. Just take no action. Later if she says "I sent you a text telling you XYZ, did you get it?" You can say "yes".
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
