Sorry you are here, and you will find the help you need. However, you already have the key to getting her back, potentially:

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e separated a few years ago (for 3 months) and when I really truly stopped caring and stopped wanting to R, she came back and sparked my feelings and we worked it out.


This is exactly what you have to do again. You are an example of how this works (other newbies please take note!). Pursuit and pressure do not work. Truly moving on has the best chance to work. So find that place again, and then wait for her to want to come back.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018