Hi Merrick, wanted you to know that I'm here w/you and hoping that your W takes the best approach when you start this process. Don't be surprised if she starts yelling out more of why the M can't work or how much "harder" her life is gonna be coz she has to do it "all" for the kids now.
Just a word of warning in case.... Of course, we all know that it's not true since you've been busting your tail to keep the M going. I know you've hit those brick walls quite a bit (as we all have) and it's just another "approach" to DBing in a safer environment. Good luck. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. Tootles............