As always, thanks friends. Right now though, my focus is DB Coach Laurie.
Laurie, if you're out there, these are the questions I want to ponder tomorrow on our call:
1) Is it finally time to go or do I feed the beast? If I stay, is an informal in-house separation agreement best given that W won't pursue structured counseling?
W has said explcitly that she feels trapped in the M and that my continued presence exacerbates that feeling. She says we can have a better R and kids will be better if I leave. Is it my job to go and relieve the stress or hers? Or does staying ultimately force her to MAKE HER decide to stay or go? And what about the recent violence from her?
2) How do you analyse the impact of staying on our kids and whether we should pursue C for them individually or as a family if W will agree?
3) Should I commence a new financial regime, i.e, we split liquid assets and set rigid monthly budget? Right now it's all one pot and we go with the flow. Does that sound vindictive or realistic?
4) Should I pursue all or nothing C with W. That is, get her to commit to an eight-week program and we'll decide what to do at the end of that time before I make any other mjaor decision?
Other than that--all is well. A friend is in from out of town so dinner and drinks time.
