I'm well, but after a rough weekend. W's determination to separate and legal issues are beginning to bubble a lot more. I've got a lot of decisions to make--and really need a break from the board.
The harshest legal realization is that W's attorney will valuate my law degree (marital property in NY)in such a way as to leave me with no money if we separate or D. This is really a squeeze game where you can get any expert to put a price on the law degree to fit your legal needs.
In other words, if our house and property is valued at $250,000--they'll say the law degree is worth $250k--so she keeps all the property and I keep the value of my degree. Or they can value the degree more and say I owe her more cash. Or they can use the cash from the degree in lieu of higher spousal support and avoid taxes.
In short, they can do whatever they want to achieve their desired objective. I can hire my own actuary at $3,000 and litigate the dispute among experts. Basically, a lose-lose proposition.
I have a session with Laurie later this week and I'll take it from there. Thanks again.
