Matrix you need to decide if its more important to sort out your marriage or to maintain your friendship with the guy having an A with your wife. If you don't take action this might go on for years.
I hear ya pal. Just trying to figure out how to respond should co-worker sense something is wrong. Should I let him know what's on my mind, or just keep on dismissing him? Issue at hand is that I don't want to come across as anti social when the time comes to get together with him and his wife. I can't tell my wife that I'm ok with her outings and perfectly secure and comfortable with her having friends from the opposite sex, while at the same time tell her I refuse to socialize with them (OM & his wife and kids) because I think my W and him are having an A. Something which I've tried to play down as not something I care to not acknowledge out of pure indifference.
To my W, I'm trying to come across as believing her and giving her the benefit of the doubt. But it's not something she buys for the time being (mainly because I've shown in the past that it bothered me). Not that I care anymore what she thinks on whether I belive her or not, but every time I've raised suspicion or accused her, she got defensive and accusatory, telling me that this is why this marriage doesn't work... Because there's no trust between us, and we might as well go our separate ways. The problem is, as I've mentioned above, I can't afford a divorce at this point and I care about the kids wellfare. So for now I'm stuck in this dead end and am trying DBing/180/GAL.
thoughts?
M (LBS): 41, W (WAS) : 40 M: 16Y, T: 22Y Kids: 11, 9, 9 A: since 2015 DB: since July 2017
