DB / Detach- Will we ever piece it together

[LITB]

Thanks Litb I appreciate your time. Stop spending time with her even if she wants to get to know each other again and build a relationship? Last night she texts me I want to text you but I don’t want to say anything too heavy. New moon- emoji. This could mean just about anything including I want to move forward with divorce. I wake up and see it early in the morning and can’t sleep.

I want my woman back. Stop spending time with her detach gal until what? She makes a decision? She said she’s bored and lonely so that’s why she was swiping on dating app. We could be talking instead. She just doesn’t see it the way I do at this point st least. I’m a leader and I’m really tired of giving her all the power in the relationship. Or lack there of. I will do it. I texted her back what did you want to say? I’m just going to stop talking to her. It’s the only thing that has worked so far.

She doesn't want to build a relationship, yet. Until you consistently demonstrate that you are not going to be available to her every beck and call, there is no motivation for her to change.

So GAL until you fully detach. When you fully detach, you will not wonder or be waiting for her to commit. If/when she does, then you can decide what direction you want to go.

Good job on generating a schedule. Do your best to stick to it. And remember, when you are tempted to talk to your W about anything else besides your D, we are screaming in your ear, "STOP!! THIS HAS NOT WORKED!! WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO DO, IS NOT GETTING YOU CLOSER TO YOUR GOAL!!". DB'ing is counterintuitive. Don't let fear be your guide.

When she is ready, she will make it clear. Btw, not a good idea to let her back so easily. I made that mistake and we went through a second separation.