I plan to schedule a call with DB Coach Laurie to discuss.
I just learned this morning that W was out with OM (and others) the night of the attack. She claims this is the first time she "saw" him in a month. I can only surmise she continues to have strong feelings for an R with OM that has been fractured by others and not on her own terms. I guess this has a lot to do with what happened. let this be a lesson to those seeking to halt an A where WAS wants nothing to do with LBS.
Leaving may be a good idea, but accelerates a discussion of legal issues involving the kids--which can increase tension and confrontation. I have discussed W moving out, but she has defined her life as "ultimate" life-setter for kids--so moving out is a real non-starter for her.
I may have to take a new tack on counseling--not as an attempt to repair the M, but as an attempt to reconcile R issues as they relate to child-rearing. The other tack I might take is a serious discussion of our R--which seems anti-DBing, but is something I have not tried. It would not be a pressure DB, but a serious discussion of the world as I see it--and my hopes, dreams, aspirations. Unfortunately, I think this discussion would be helpful if a neutral C were there to channel it, but I would expect my W to interrupt and defend at every turn. Then again, I can start and back off if it is taking this course.
No answers for today, but a lot to think about--AFTER I DO SOME WORK!!!!
