I'm sorry you are having a hard time of it, but Korms is right. It's time to go down another tunnel. Absense may make the heart grow founder.
Here's a seperation agreement you might suggest to WAS. Get an apartment then have you and your wife each alternate weeks in the apartment. This way you both get custody of the kids and can still be seperated. This will simulate a joint custody agreement without moveing the kids every week or so. If she wants to stop by, by all means let her. Don't burden her with rules. See where it takes you. Maybe agree to coming over on Sudays for church and laundry and maybe a family meal. When its her turn you might even work your way up to leaving flowers or some special coffee or somehing.
I suggested this to my wife and she actually backed off a bit. She did consider it though, but we are both just living parallel lives right now. When she starts to get under my skin I just tell her I'm not in the mood for a fight. If she keeps it up I just walk away. Time to create you a bachelor pad down in the basement if you don't move out.
Chill Merrick and work on yourself and your relationship with your children. I only have one kid and can't even imagine the torment you are going through with 3. You are the man!
Good luck, and I hope you take our comments in good spirits.
One more thing..
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Betsey recently remarked to others that the worst thing you can do is ignore a woman who wants attention. I really want to give W what she needs and will try hard. And DB Coach Laurie says just be her friend.
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Being a friend doesn't mean you have to let your wife step all over you. You can still set boundaries. Tell her you don't want to fight period. Don't tell her any more than that. Let her figure it out. Be her friend by helping her, by being there when she needs you. But one thing she doesn't need, and she probably doesn't realize it, is to fight.
