Merrick, Merrick, Merrick...To stay or to go. Seems to be the million dollar question you struggle with. As you know I too struggled with this very much. I think you know the answer in my case as to the outcome of my staying. Yours seems to be taking the other direction in that maybe you will be filing the restraining order. I am sorry for you, no one should have to endure this to save their marriage. If you left no one would blame you for it. If you stay will it help? I for one am with the gang here. I think you should consider a way the 2 of you could work something out thaty would help to give her some space. I think its time to let her free to face the reality of her pain. She is so obsessed with the thought that it is you that is causing her misery that she cant see the truth and the pain within herself of her own shortcomings. Maybe, and this is a big maybe if you were gone she could see that she is still miserable and it is not you. The only problem with this is that it will most likely take time for her to see her ways.

No easy solutions, your at a croosroads and I would never tell you to do one of the othetr Merrick. These are the types of decisions that can change yopur life forever and only you can choose. You know your sitch better than us all.

As for the other woman thing, Be careful with how you get your reactions. You dont want to be blatantly out with another woman till all hours of the night. Just be a little mysterious, change your habits some, get some new colougne. And last but not least...YES, get yourself some sexy underware, something you normally wouldnt buy for yourself. Maybe a few new shirts and some socks. Mirror her actions. Do some things you wouldnt usssually do, maybe go hang out at the mall and get some clothing or whatever. I at one time bought some sweaters that were on sale in late January. Good price for year end clearance so I bought like 4 of them. My wife, in her jealousy a few months later, said I take it she likes sweaters? So you see you dont have to look for a reation immediatly, let things stew in them for some time and let their minds play with them much like when you first were suspicious of her withn the OM. She will notice, and you will get a reaction, trust me. God Bless, Eddy