WAW on rebound, toxic inlaws, mental health issues

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I decided to start a new topic for my situation so it's better to summarise as a lot has happened in the past 12 months. I have been actively DB-ing and completed a 180 for the past ten months but decided now is the time to reach out to DW again as nothing has changed.

SDIL = Stepdad-in-law
PIL = Parents-in-law
BIL = Brother-in-law
FIL = Father-in-law

- I met DW overseas and moved to her home country a few years ago
- Landed jobs - life was nice and dandy for two years
- My ex-employer ripped me off for close to a six digit figure and fired me in a brutal manner
- I made preparations to take them to court
- SDIL told me I shouldn't do so because "bad things would happen"
- I proceeded, DW kept increasing pressure on me to drop it for months
- Formal complaint issued, company denied any wrongdoings
- My employment lawyer kept trying to schedule a meeting which they avoided
- Pressure from DW increased even more
- Court hearing finally scheduled almost nine months later
- Having casual conversation with DW five days before hearing
- DW says "I'm going to see my mum for lunch, see you later" and did not come home
- Next morning half the bank account has been emptied
- Days go by without communication and I had the worst time of my life
- DW moves in with her parents in a new apartment at an unknown location
- Counselling session occurred and DW admitted that taking the money was not her idea
- Employment hearing was postponed due to my emotional state
- I intercepted messages from MIL to DW telling her to "go dating and find a new man"
- One final counselling session DW says "I can no longer work on the relationship"
- Counsellor asked her if she wants a divorce to which she responds "No. I don't know."
- Weeks go by without news and I discover that DW had been unfaithful with a Tinder date
- Suddenly a threatening phone call by SDIL telling me they would come to pick up her stuff and "I better not be home"
- I packed all her stuff in boxes, placed a vase with flowers, a card and planted a recording device.
- Left a heart warming, caring letter for DW. When she found it SDIL said "do you want me to destroy it?"
- All boxes removed and DW is alone in the house. She breaks down, cries and shrieks in a way I have never heard her before and yells out "Why does DH not understand that he is fighting with my parents?"
- Knowing this I decide to seek contact with PIL and SDIL agrees to meet me
- He burns me through the ground for hours telling me "I told you bad things would happen",
"you will never see your wife again", "you need to pack up the house and move back to your own country".
- He continued with more BS such as "marriage is just a piece of paper", "if you try and see her I will get a restraining order against you.", "she is moving on!".
- I decided to ignore the toxic PIL and continue my employment case and reschedule it
- My BIL contacted my employment lawyer to request him to drop my case "on behalf of the family"
- If he did not drop the case "the family" would "testify against me"
- He decided not to drop it because I was treated unfairly and continued the case
- Police came knocking on my door after receiving a call about a suicide attempt
- Two months later, my hearing finally took place and I was ruled to be victorious
- Half-way throughout the meeting my ex-employer pulls out a piece of paper from his chest pocket and starts reading a testimony by my PIL against me, clearing the company of any blame which the judge dismissed
- In a one-on-one meeting my boss admits to me that he had been postponing the case "on behalf of the family"
- The day after winning my employment case my entire in-law family unfriend me on all social media
- DW started breaking down communications with her friends and her own FIL (!) and disappeared into anonymity
- Months go by with DW into hiding, does not talk to many people. Anybody that talks to her she tells "I am happy. My job is going really well." and nothing else. Nobody knows where she lives, not even close friends.
- Only three months ago DW finally moved out of her parents apartment, now living with another family member at an unknown location which is not traceable.
- DW has not spoken to some of her closest friends for months - varying degrees between Christmas, February. Only two people have heard from her in May and that is the latest communication from her.
- I tried reaching out to her casually twice now, both attempts received but unanswered.

TLDR; My wife was taken from me by her parents because they disagreed with me taking my employer to court.

Prior to all of the above happening the relationship with my PIL was absolutely fine and I never had problems with them.

The law in this country states that you have to be separated for two years before you can divorce and one year has gone by. The intention of the PIL is to let the two year timer expire so they can divorce me by sorting all the arrangements and paperwork and all DW has to do is put her signature down. This can be served and the marriage dissolved without any court, jury or judge interfering unless I reject it.
This is a typical case of "alienation of affection by PIL". Unfortunately that chapter is not covered in local law. DW does not know how her parents have manipulated my employment case and how they contributed to our marriage breakdown.

I am trying to come up with ways of communicating with DW so that she knows the truth about what has happened. Then she can make an informed decision whether she still wants to proceed with a potential divorce or not. I will never in a million years allow our marriage to be dissolved simply because my PIL no longer approve of me because I tried to seek justice.

-truthbuster