I made a list of things I have done so far in this mess that have made things worse and pushed my H further away and next to those things I have listed the things I will be doing going forward.. things that will help me, and things that I can do to bring peace and some calm to this .
up til now I have 180 going forward 1. Been sad ---- 1. Get happy. stop thinking about the neg.
2. Thinking about what he is doing ----- 2.Focus on myself
3.I 've been angry ---- 3. let the past go, anger is only hurting me
4. texting him constantly ---- 4. Do not initiate contact , let him contact him
5. Talking too much ---- 5. keep communication short,simple
6. talking about our relationship /situation at nauseam ----- 6. no relationship talk
7.telling him how I feel, that I do not want a divorce, 7. keep my feelings to myself . let him that I love him , that I miss him --- wonder what im thinking
8. making assumptions about how he feels/what 8. unless he tells me how he thinks/feels he thinks and telling him my thoughts ----- stop assuming
