WW- Equalzr's saga pt 2. WW's & MLC'er advice plz

[equalzr]

Journaling...

I was spending some time praying this morning, and my W came out to talk for a bit. There was some usual talk about random things which i gave short responses to as usual. She then turned the conco to D talk which she does quite frequently now as shes in a hurry to get thkngs over with so she can officially be with OM (my assumption). It started to go sideways from there as it usually does. I requested that we come up with a certain time/day to tslk about it so we arent discussing it nearlt every day. I know i have to deal with it, but it stresses me out and i dont want to talk about it all the time. Besides that, i didnt want the D, so why should i help move it along as quickly as possible?

The W then got upset and went into R talk and again explained all the things i didnt do right in the M, and also let me know she hasnt been happy for some time and that she was hesitant to get married. I then told her that "im sorry you feel this way, im sorry that you chose this path, i didnt ask for this, and that with communication there was no need to go down this path."

Now for the kicker. After she tells me that she wasnt happy for quite some time, she then begins to tell me how i "should be happy for her". At this point im doing everything i can to stop my head from exploding right there on the spot. I asked her that im supposed to be happy for her that she cheated on her family and ripped her family apart? Im guilty of cutting her off again and she didnt want to finish after that, and i dont think i really want her to either. Shes said enough, how warped can your mind be that you actually even let it slip out of your mouth that i should be happy for you.....your husband who you cheated on and are D'ing and are trying to rake over the coals financially should be happy for you?

I calmly told her that i would love to see our family happy together. That said, this was the last straw for me. There is nothing about this woman that says "i think rationally" anymore. To be this far gone in fantasy land in your own head is too much for me. Not only this, but now she thinks she will have our S around OM after some time, which i know i wont be able to stop after D, but its something weve always said we wouldnt do shoild it ever come to this. Shes went back on 99% of everythkng shes ever told me in the past. I refuse to have my S around someone that took part in tearing my family apart and have my S who is innocent in all this around him not knowing what they were doing during our M. I may be bad for it, but beans will be spilled if thats the route she goes.