Thank you ovrrnbw, I am a MRS. WE have 1 adult daughter that he has nothing to do with either. she basically has told him she does not agree with what he is doing and its wrong but that she loves him and hopes he comes home . because she is standing her ground and following her morals he has nothing to do with her and blames her as well for making things worse. our daughter went to OWs house when it all came out and told OW that he is married and that we were still sleeping in the same bed, and that I loved him ans wanted to save our marriage.. OW just looked at our daughter and said she loved him ( she had known him for 2 months ) and that all this was up to him...I had no idea daughter confronted OW til after the fact..
I have no idea why he does not want a divorce..i have asked if it is because of money and he says no. my H is in his mid fifties and OW is mid thirties ( OW is our daughters age) H said if I divorced him for adultery I would only be doing it to get revenge and be vindictive..nothing he says makes any sense.
H is living with OW ( they were living in her small condo but a few months ago "SHE" bought a huge house in the country, they live about an hour away from me now. he says he did not give her any money for it ( she owns her own business) He started a new job during our separation ( so no one he works with knows me or knows anything about me ) he has taken her to every Company event/party/charity , his family embrace OW and her 7 yr old son ( from her previous marriage) knowing that we are not divorced or even legally separated.. The entire situation is sick and twisted...
This has been going on with her long enough for him to know if he wants to live the rest of his life with her so it makes no sense to not go and file for divorce, and you would think OW would put her foot down and tell him to end it with me, I have truly never heard nor seen anything like this..
I do many things for fun, I garden, draw, read, I love the outdoors.. things I am doing now that I did not do before are getting out with friends at least once a week, attending church on a regular basis, joined several womens groups, volunteer , travel more..so I am not sitting around the house waiting for him to come home.but I do miss him and our family and all the things we did..
He has refused to see me for almost 2 years now and up til last fall he would only initiate communication with me via text..last fall OW saw a text message on his phone from me and they had a argument over it and he has not initiated contact with me since..now that I have stopped contacting him there is no communication at all.. which is why I feel this is finally it and he will disappear from my life for good..
I just do not know if this can be turned around at this point.. 3 years is a long time ..
