Merrick, I think you did the right thing w/S9 and W. She just doesn't see it. She is projecting all the negative she can get her hands on. She is a negative magnet so it is hard for her to see any positive in what happens, even your hugging. The devil has gotten his hands on her and won't let her out!
I agree that you need to get away or at least get some time to relax and renew yourself. My H kept the kids on Saturday night and all day Sunday. Although I felt guilty not being w/them, I soon got over that fact so I could do some things for ME. Nice long bath, read, sleep in, etc...I felt good when I saw them again. I didn't get "away" but I was removed from the situation in such a way that I got to do something for me. It was nice. Maybe you can do an overnighter away from her just for a day or two? Would be refreshing. Take care. Tootles..........
