I waited to collect the kids from school but was then told that W had snatched them and W is to take me to court within the next week for the kids to live with her all the time.
Prior to then I had followed legal advice and my solicitor put a childcare access plan to W but now W is using that against me claiming it is controlling to want to have a plan in place of when I would get to see my kids. W even claims the kids are frightened of me. I am so, so shocked because the kids and I are sooooo sooooo close.
I have been so busy in the last couple of weeks with GAL that I had largely ruled-out a MR until such time as W had changed but now having to deal with this I could lose my kids, my home, everything, but there is still part of me that knows I'm a good person at heart and have done my very best.
Is this what it needs for reality to really to hit home?
Make no mistake about it, the situation you are in now is what you have contributed to with your attitude towards yourself and this desperate hope for recon.
Everybody is entitled to their opinion - as long as the end goal is in the best interests of the poster.
Since the start I have advised you of the stance to take - and warned you it would go this way. I believe I said stop leaving the door open for this person while she gets her playing pieces in position. And lo and behold that is happening.
Now we are staring at the possibility of you losing kids, house and having to move out of the area - this is because you gave her the power and you were in a reaction mode - rather than taking total control of your actions - basically because you hoped for recon and didn't want to upset her and push her closer to D by angering her.
Certain people on this board have advised to keep the door open for this women and not file for divorce, when in reality this isnt a marriage, its an example of a guy getting took to the cleaners because he is trying to be a nice guy in hope of a recon rather than facing the reality that if you give her room to breath, she will slowly take everything she needs and leave you in a heap on the ground.
Battle lines need to be drawn and you need to stop being a good person and start being a man in control - because this situation will continue to deteriorate until you do.
But you have to take responsibility for this unhealthy belief that wife will change - its not happening.
