your H is way out there. Over 3 years with another woman and no separation, no divorce? Do y'all have kids? Why is he so scared of divorce?
Since you have a goal of a relationship with him one day, I hope you get it.
How often have you been in contact with him in the last few years? And was the communication friendly? Has he known you will always be there?
I'd start with Cadet's links and keep giving us info. You need to really detach yourself from his craziness and get strong for yourself. Until then, you won't have a clear mind and heart. What do you do for fun? Any good GAL activities?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
