One thing I did notice, my husband was venting to me about an argument with his business partner. His business partner is actually a very good friend of ours, and normally I would try to calm him down and tell him to handle it in a good way and remember the friendship comes first, etc etc. But for the first time ever I had no desire to say anything like that.
I didnt even realize until after. All I did was validate his anger and say things like "wow ya thats frustrating". I have no desire to try to "fix" it for him or help make sure it smoothes over or even give advice on how to handle it, because ultimately I am detached from that portion of his life at the moment. I dont really have a concern if he keeps up a friendship with someone who has been one of his closest friends for 15 years, because it is no longer my place to save him.
Am I detached from HIM? not at all clearly. But it does feel as though I am detaching from the problems in his life I would normally take on and help him with. If only I could detach from him and the thought of the OW. One day maybe
