She knows...Pt. 4

[SteveLW]

bm, please go back and read your response. There are a lot of contradictions. "I didn't want to upset her." Then "I knew posting it on fb would get back to her and upset her/" Huh?

I think the whole problem stemmed from this:

I basically told myself "you need to get this off your chest, and there's no way this is going to go well, but you have to do SOMETHING."

Note what I said in my first response about the illusion of action?? In DBing often the best action is NO ACTION AT ALL.

I am not going to lie, this is a huge setback. It also makes me question if you were really DBing as well as I thought you were all this time. I am guessing that the DBing you were doing wasn't for yourself, and was to try to manipulate her. I think you even recently said, after she didn't let the D expire, that DBing was having the opposite of the desired effect.

As I read your update, sandi's rule #37 was screaming from memory.......you worked hard all these last few months. I am afraid you backslid and undid all of that.

bm I will keep you in my prayers. I think what I am saddest for you is this:

Does that matter? Not really, because there's literally no way for me to control who she has him around

So you blew it all up. Potentially ruined any chance of avoiding D. And still did nothing to ensure your S won't continue to be exposed to OM and his snakes. (Because I agree 100% with you that there is no way she is done with him over this. She will do what all WAWs/WWs do when the LBH snoops and confronts them about things......go deeper undercover.)

I am not seeing any upside here.

One final 2x4. This is all because you went back on your desire to stay off of FB. Look at your paragraph about OM:

FB search found him. Matched other social media accounts, found pics of the snakes.

FB. FB. FB.

FB is all over this.