I agree this is a pretty common response to affection... and actually, after reading your post on Betsey's thread the other day, it seemed pretty predictable.
Quote: She once again asked where all this emotion came from, where has it been, but also said that this is what I always did (touch/physical) and it wasn't enough. I said I know now it wasn't enough, but it was the way I tried to say ILY.
First, she can't say it is what you always did and then ask where it comes from. Well, she can but she is clearly talking in a circle, and to me sounds like defenses are coming down a bit... feeling the emotion from you and then "remembering" her position that things haven't changed, perhaps even a glimmer of realizing that wait, he WAS like this... he DID show emotion through touch... She is struggling with many emotions.
I think reminding yourself to be her friend was the right move. It was the toughest move, too. My hat is off to you (well, I'm not actually wearing a hat, but figuratively). Explaining your motives "in the past" were your LL was also good. I'd bet that she really heard that, whether she let on or not.
What Seattle said about good friends being rare is true. Women can find sex and a kiss more easily than a caring friend. It's also worth remembering that sex and kissing may not be what she is seeking.
