So this is where it gets hard because normally after he says things like that I would start to feel like he is feeling remorse and i would try to talk about R with him. And I know not to do that now. But he came by the house again a little bit ago because something happened with work and he was venting to me about it, and he had on the hat of the OW bar in the other city, that I have repeatedly asked him not to wear in our home.
Ketch, forget about the hat for a second. Why is he coming by your house to vent to you? You are letting him get exactly what he wants out of the relationship without actually committing to the relationship. Why are you still the person he turns to when he needs to vent? That's the role that a spouse should have, but he fired you from that role when he walked away. If you keep letting him eat cake like that, and keep responding to all of his "woe is me" texts, and keep letting him drop by the house whenever he feels like it, you aren't going to get anywhere. He'll keep doing that and carrying on like he is. Are you okay with that long-term? What boundaries do you have? You aren't going to get to R by being "nice" to him.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
