And with the hat, I know you are right, and you make a good point about how that would be a good 180 for me. I didnt think of it like that. I thought of it more as im trying to be assertive, valued, respected, and if I continue to let him break my boundaries, he will always walk all over me. A Very clear boundary I have set is for him to NOT wear that d*mn hat in this house.
I dont think he was even thinking about it honestly, he wears a million hats, but hes told me he would burn it in the past and clearly its still here. Now its in our garbage can outside and im tempted to walk out, get it, and set it on fire.
But now I regret that I didnt ignore it. Do you think that is a big setback from the progress I felt like I was making. I get VERY mixed up here when he starts to say things like "im sorry for everything. I should have handled it better" and talking about our R. I can talk about our D all day and be very assertive and short and to the point. But he starts to talk about R and I immediately get happy thinking he is going to turn this around.
How do I keep myself from doing that? I need to stay on this path. 2x4s welcome
