A familiar story with questions. VI

[RR17]

Quick Friday update. Limbo Land continues but may be changing. I have noticed that W is even more respectful and less defensive. What I mean is that if I ask a question that in the past she may have taken it personally and become defensive, she now just responds. No self-victimization. She doesn't default to the idea that I am being judgemental or blaming her.
Why the change? IDK, I'd like to think that it is a product of my hard work, but I'm not willing to take credit just yet. I guess it's possible that something outside the MR was making her happier. It's possible, but I think she would be less respectful to me as she seems to like to at least hint at her true feelings even if she won't communicate them like a healthy adult. If anything she is hinting that she is much happier with me. If she had something outside bringing her joy, I think she would be more "yea life" "boo RR17". Hope this makes sense.

She is in a better mood more often. Problem with that is I have slipped and shared a story or two about my day when I was mostly listening and validating. I let my guard down. Maybe it's a good thing. I just don't want to slip into a new normal that is not adequate.
W sleeps on the couch or in a Ds room if one is vacant. Ds don't seem to care or be concerned. This has gone one for over a year now. Ds are busy with their own lives. I took them to pizza last night while W was at tennis. They are growing ups so fast.