I'm new and this is my first post.. I wish I had found this site at BD, I have done everything that is said NOT to do..
My H and I have been married for over 30 years and I was BD in 2015, learning my H had gone out and met a younger woman and after being with her for only a few months was in love with her and had to be with her.. OW knew from the start he is married..H stayed in our home for a few months but decided he could not take my pressure for him to end it with OW so he left and moved in with her.. they have been together now for 40 months and have lived together 35 months.. I have begged, questioned, shown anger, constantly texted him each and every day etc..and have only succeeded in pushing H further away from me.
H no longer sees me ( I have not seen him in 2 years) and does not initiate communication with me at all now. My last communication with him was 2 weeks ago via text about bills which turned into an argument.. he said he could not stand me and if I continued to come at him he would block me and have no further contact with me at all..he said I needed to stop coming at him, stop wearing him out , if I could just put down my weapons and stay off my phone.. I have not had contact with him since..
He has not filed for divorce and if I bring it up he either becomes angry , verbally abusive or just shuts down completely..
So I have done everything wrong from the start.. I have both books now DB and DR.. and I have joined this site, and found a therapist for betrayed spouses...
