I am so proud of you! You didn't jump right in when he told you about his situation. It just goes to show all of us that they aren't happy and are not thinking properly.
The woman saw him as a sugar daddy and one that she could bleed dry. He was the goose that was laying the golden eggs. She didn't care if he was married or not..just as long as the money was rolling in and she could spend it. Has he learned his lesson? I think not. He will continue to hit the brick wall until one day...he'll realize that the wall is stronger than he is and he will need to open the door to reality and step thru to figure himself out.
Lou...hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.